Monday, July 30, 2007

A Little Rage Release

So Allison and I have been dating for over two years now. Things are progressing nicely. One constant annoyance has been people asking me when we are getting married. Now I know people don't mean anything by it, but it's been going on since we were dating three months, actually since before we became a couple.

There's no secret that we are in love and that we will be married. I know people are excited about the prospect of going to our wedding, which is wonderful. I'm just getting a little annoyed with constantly having to repeat myself. It will happen. It will happen at the right time, and I don't plan on telling anyone about it until post-engagement.

I mean the engagement is really the only thing that the guy truly has control over. Now if you want to fork over the thousands of dollars necessary for me to purchase the ring and then want to know all the ends and outs then I'm okay with it, LOL, though we know that's not going to happen. I want to enjoy our relationship, without the constant barrage.

I want to be with this woman for the rest of my life, there's no doubt about it. It will happen when it's meant to. It will be special and my loved ones and friends will hear all about it.

Then we'll be able to rest for five minutes before people try to dictate how our wedding should be. Once that's finished when we are having kids. I think our biggest mistake is not having a booklet printed out where we put down the exact details of every element of our lives and send it to everyone to meet their approval.

Okay I'm actually not in a bad mood, just a bit fed up with all of the questions.


Al said...

*cackling* it'll be like a celebrity wedding, highly secret until just a few weeks before the event, LOL.
Love you dear :)

T1 said...

not for nothing- and i say this with love----wahhhhhhhhh.
can u imagine so many people loving you and being happy to see you happy and wanting to share in your happiness. I guess this is a glass half empty and glass half full situation. Youre right- its no ones business but you guys are really not dealing with anything any of the rest haven't.....

remember this was all said with love.

coldploy said...

I agree with t1. You'd be annoyed sometimes. However, I would think of it positively; better have people like you than hate you.

Al said...

I understand why this might sound complain-y. And I know it's cause people love us. But with love sometimes comes a bit of over excitement and the need to give out lots and lots and lots of unsolicited advice from where and when and how Jamaal should propose to where we should get married (with comments like this sprinkled in "If you get married in Boston, I won't go" and "It would be a bad idea to get married in NYC!!") ever other comment/piece of advice you can think of ("pick a good color for the bridesmaids that will complement black AND white skin!!") Sure it's well-meaning, but there are some days when it's like a freakin' waterfall falling on top of you and you're drowning in a lake of advice and.....WE'RE NOT EVEN ENGAGED. I mean the wedding is not this imminent thing upon us. We know people say it out of love though, but sometimes you just need to vent, LOL.

Excalibur said...

I think the whole point of the posting has kind of been missed.

Situation=we realize that people are happy

Unintended effect=complete annoyance when people ask frequently about a proposal

I'm not quite sure that's normal after 3 months. Perhaps people have opinions on it, but I don't think it's normal to ask the question so frequently--which kind of comes off as you're not moving fast enough to fit our timetable.

I say this all to say, people don't think about unintended consequences. What's most likely is going to happen, not to the person that ocassionaly asks, but to the frequent asker is one of us will snap.

With that I'm finished with this particular thread.